OUR “B-SIDE”

Dr. Francine Baffa, BCBA-D, CSW, Autism Lecturer

For those of us who remember 45’s and singles you know exactly what the B side is! But as  an intro for those less versed and younger,  it is the less often played , secondary track.  The one that didn’t  make the artist famous and has had less air time, or in today’s term -less “iPod” time.  The song usually  had a history of its own, one that was clearly descriptive of the artist’s character just not as popular.

On more than one occasion it has occurred to me that we give our “A” side far too much air time so to speak … Stepping back I realized that although our “B”side may not be as socially normalized, at times as its kin “A”,  it is aligned with who we are and should have equal soundings.

Who defines social appropriateness? Is it those in the majority or more typical? Is there really a norm? I have to argue that there are no answers to the these questions that one can support without a full understanding of the value and richness in the expanse of  social oneness. The mere presence of a concept social awkwardness can prevent us from fully interacting with others out of fear of being not accepted or not acting in a conventional fashion. Once you realize that everyone faces these challenges there are ways to move forward with grace and confidence, you’ll be on your way to embracing social interactions instead of dreading them.